True Self / False Self Inventory
Objective: This is a practice of discernment—learning to recognize the version of yourself that’s been shaped by fear, wounds, ego, and the constant pressure to perform (the False Self), and to contrast that with who God says you are. Ultimately, your identity (the True Self) is rooted in God’s love, grounded in grace, and at home in your place as a son or daughter of the Father.
How To Do This
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Begin in stillness. Ask the Holy Spirit to gently uncover what’s beneath the surface. Let Him reveal the lies you’ve believed believed about yourself.
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Grab something to write with and some paper. Name the version of yourself that’s driven by fear, comparison, performance, or approval. This self often looks good on the outside but is anxious, exhausted, or defensive on the inside. Pay attention to the roles you play or masks you wear to be loved or accepted. Be honest—this isn’t about shame, it’s about freedom.
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Now ask yourself: Who does God say I am?
Look through Scripture—God has already written down exactly how He sees you. It’s as simple as asking, “What does God say about [insert your false identity] in the Bible?”
The True Self is your identity in Christ—loved, chosen, secure, and at peace. -
I recommend doing this with someone you trust. A mentor, a pastor, a friend. Someone safe. Someone you can be vulnerable with—and someone who can be vulnerable with you. Sit with the person you choose and read to them what you have discovered. And then—listen to what they discovered.
Scripture: Romans 8:14-17, 2 Corinthians 5:17, Ephesians 2:10
Origin: The concept of putting off the "old self" and putting on the "new self" is rooted in Scripture, especially Paul's writings:
"You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self... and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness."
— Ephesians 4:22–24 (NIV)